Who you are should never make you afraid.
Who you are should make everyone else afraid.
The reason that you are afraid of who you are, or who you might be, is because other people are afraid of that, and so they go to great lengths to point out, that because they are afraid, you should be afraid too.
Though they never say “I am afraid of who you will become, because you will be different, and I don’t want you to be different to me.”
Those other people will couch their fear in phrases that sound like they are caring.